Your Thoughts Thursday: Receiving Gifts

March 11, 2010 by Keri

I figure that I spend enough time filling the internet with my thoughts and opinions, so the least that I can do is dedicate one post per week to asking for yours!  Besides, I love conversation and I’m hoping this is a way to trick get you all to  converse with me.  The questions can range from completely lighthearted to serious topics and anywhere in between.  I can’t wait to read what you have to say!  It’s like a mini you interview every week!

When it comes to gift giving, the people around you most likely know that you live a veg life.  In other words, they aren’t going to give you a leather coat or slabs of meat, but for someone that doesn’t live a vegan or vegetarian life style commonly forget less obvious animal products.  Heck, many of us are still realizing hidden animal byproducts and we’re living veg! So my question is What do you do when you’re gifted something non-veg friendly?

  • Whether it’s a beeswax candle, wool coat, leather trimmed bag, what do you do with it?
  • Return, donate, keep?
  • If the person asks about it, what do you say?

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  1. Andria @ Veg is Sexy says:

    Ooh good question. My first instinct would be to take it to the store and exchange it for something else. If that’s not possible, depending on what the gift is, I think I would keep it. If it was like, a stuffed deer head, then out the door. But something like a pair of non-returnable shoes I might keep just so I’m not wasting them. I still wear certain shoes and items of clothing that I have from my pregan days, I just can’t afford to get all new ones and I certainly don’t want to throw out and waste a perfectly ok (if not vegan) item. If it’s food, like milk chocolate, I’d just give it to a family member or another friend.

  2. Sara Stanton says:

    This is my normal experience with gifts. I am the “black sheep” in my family and REALLY in my husbands family. 99% of them don’t understand the way I think, feel or eat. They constantly complain that I am “difficult” to shop for even though I give them hints or direct them to my wish list on Amazon for things that I like. My mother in law is the biggest offender. I usually re-gift what she gives me or just give it away to someone else. If I know I can get something that suits me from the store she purchased it, I will return it. I try to tell them not to buy me anything or at least get me a gift certificate to a store I like but it falls on deaf ears. On top of the gifts, they “offer” to take me out to eat somewhere that I can’t or go to her house for lunch and ask me and my kids if we want chicken etc. They usually make some joke about the way me and my little boys eat, it gets old.
    Wait, did I answer your question or just go on a rant about my in laws?

  3. Andria @ Veg is Sexy says:

    My cousin is a hunter…I think he’s at LEAST sensitive enough not to give ME one but I’ll cross my fingers just in case

  4. Andria @ Veg is Sexy says:

    Wait sorry I feel like I need to clarify – he has never, to my knowledge, given anyone a head. But I know he does have some himself and he doles out the meat to some of my other family members.

    Haha I originally intended that to be a joke but then it dawned on me that if anyone were to give that as a gift it would be him.

  5. Regina says:

    Oh Sara I hear you! My Dad and Sister are the only awesome people regarding my veganism. Family goes so far as to wave bacon in my face, the boyfriend says I’m difficult, and well…yeah.

    Anyway…Gifts! I’m lucky that my family actually asks me for a list of items. I send them a detailed list of things and, although I normally pick simple things like money/gift cards/books. I think this year I’ll go all vegan on them – ask for seitan and tofu related items or something. If I do end up with a non-vegan item I either donate it or regift.

  6. Keri says:

    Andria- I really hope no one gifts deer heads- Nothing says I love you like a murdered, beheaded, and stuffed deer mounted on a slab of shellacked tree trunk! I love the term “pregan”; I must use that one!

    Sara- Understood! Oh the stories I have for you…

    Regina- That’s awesome that your dad and sister are supportive. Wave bacon in your face?! That’s awful! I guess waving tofu in their faces may not have the same affect…

  7. Taylor says:

    hm… well, I would say to try and return it. If that isn’t possible, or it was a sweet homemade gift(ie: sausage, bacon, some eggs) and yes people do gift such things in the South ;). I would say to accept it, but give it away to someone who could use it.

    I just wanted to comment so I could attempt to make your day. I love you!

  8. Keri says:

    Aww, thanks Taylor! I love you too. I can’t say I’ve ever been gifted bacon, but I’ve always kind of cynically assumed that when I order something vegan at a non-veg restaurant they rub bacon and hamburger all over it first.

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